Scripted Spontaneity
A woman doesn't know how precious her voice is until she's been silenced- Ursula (The Little Mermaid)
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
"Skinny Isn't Sexy"
It has always been interesting to me that we are battling obesity at the same time we are told the media is causing us to suffer from body image issues and go into eating disorders. Am I the only one that sees this irony? I know, I know, those of us considered "tiny" aren't supposed to voice our opinions on the subject. Yet here I am.
The media keeps getting blamed for unrealistic expectations about how our bodies should look. There's been the backlash of "skinny isn't sexy." As a petite individual, I find this rather offensive. To me it says "we feel better about our bodies if we can put down other body types." Don't get me wrong, I don't think malnourished is sexy either. Being built skinny is completely different. Some people are just petite
"Blah blah. Keep complaining about being small you skinny bitch."
As women, shouldn't we be building up and embracing all body types? Isn't all we should want for our friends is to be healthy and happy? Just a thought.
I see images all over the internet today of a model, highly altered and stretched vertically to look even thinner, next to a picture of Marilyn Monroe, stretched horizontally to look bigger. "Skinny isn't sexy. Marilyn Monroe was a size 12." Well here's the skinny on the situation, to burst your bubble.
1. Marilyn Monroe's waist was 22". That's 12 inches smaller than the average waist today but only 3 inches smaller than the average waist in 1960. It's definitely smaller than my waist.
2. A size 8 today would be considered a size 16 in 1960 based on measurements. We changed sizes in America in 1980 the first time.
3. She never wore a size 12-16, today's sizes or 1960's sizes. Someone in cyberspace created this image. But even if she was a size 12 in 1960, that's closer to a size 6 today.
So stop using Marilyn as your face of "skinny isn't sexy." Her bone structure was indeed curvy, but she was a very skinny woman. And sexy.
A dress size isn't what makes you sexy, just like it wasn't what made Marilyn sexy. I'd go with your confidence, your personality, intelligence all playing into being sexy. I'd also argue that those interested in you will all have different preferences of what is sexy. My man is clearly into the scrawny thing. Whatever your size is, embrace it or change it- it's your one and only body- make sure it's a body you love. But to love and be confident in your skin shouldn't require putting down any other shape.
Monday, March 18, 2013
Puppy Lessons
Fiance and I rescued Stella about two months ago. She is incredibly cute, and definitely a 5 month old hyper puppy. We are told she is a golden retriever/chocolate lab mix, but who can be sure in adopting. I was told today she looks like an aussie. Irrelevant I suppose. In the time we've had this little girl, I've learned a lot. I'm not trying to tell you how to raise yours because I really hate that shit. Here is just a recording of what I've learned so far:
1. If it fits, it ships is the saying. I'd say if it fits, she's swallowing it. The things this nugget will put in her mouth is ridiculous. Stella recently suffered from putting something wrong in her mouth- she ended up with diarrhea for almost a week. If you don't have a vet plan, good luck with those bills.
2. Take it, leave it, and drop it are the greatest commands to teach a dog. Putting my fingers in her mouth quickly got old, disgusting, and sometimes painful if she decided to bite down with those glorious razor puppy teeth. They say these commands can save your dog's life. Today it saved a lizard's life. Yes, Stella caught a lizard. I'm still shivering thinking about it. I immediately screamed and jumped. My fearless little girl was incredibly pleased with herself. I definitely wasn't sticking my hand any where in this situation. For some reason, my proud pup actually listened when I shrieked "DROP IT!" You're welcome lizard. Stay off the sidewalk in the future or scurry away sooner pal.
3. While planning my wedding, I have received plenty of unsolicited marriage advice. Here are the only good ones:
a) Be a lady, except in the bedroom. Act like a prostitute- my grandmother
b) Get a great tax professional.- most every person I've met
c) Bite the bullet. Pay for a maid to come twice a month.- every working mom
Here's my advice: get a great trainer for your dog.
4. I have a little more patience than I thought. Zach has a little less than I thought.
5. There are dogs who don't get along with other dogs. I normally just call those "cats" but whatever. You would think if that is the case, people wouldn't bring these dogs out. You would be wrong because people are ridiculously unintelligent. I have been told on walks, in PetSmart, and at a dog park to "keep your puppy away. My dog doesn't get along with other dogs." If you know me, I'm not much for filters and would really like to tell these people to go off themselves. Why are you bringing a dog to a place with other dogs you clown? I decide to not say anything because I'm afraid these dogs might also be trained to eat small children, which I closely resemble.
Note: "Dogs might have been in abusive situations so they don't trust other dogs" will be the argument to this. While that is absolutely heart breaking, you as an owner shouldn't force them to be in social situations and try to tell other dogs to stay away as if it's their fault. You stay away. Siberia is looking for residents.
6. There are people who have cats and walk them on leashes. These people need to admit they want a dog.
7. Smaller dogs in general are less behaved. I don't know if owners think because they can manhandle their little creature they never need to train it or what. These little shits are always so loud, so jumpy, so bitey, so obnoxious. If bigger dogs acted like small dogs act, they would be put down. Train your small dog. They tend to be the anti social "my dog doesn't get along with other dogs" people as well. Two chihuahuas wanted to eat Stella on our walk tonight. Also, if you are a small dog person, feel free to just admit you are really a cat person. Get a cat. And if you're a chihuahua person, you're really just a rodent person. Look into hamsters or rats.
8. I could never have a boy dog. Every time they pee I get the heebie jeebies.
9. I'm not ready for a human child.
I'm sure this dog will have plenty more lessons for me, but for today, I'm sure this is plenty.
Monday, June 27, 2011
Planning Dates
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Toddlers and Tiaras
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Weddings ruining marriage
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
The 80/20 Rule
I recently was having a pity party with my chocolate covered pretzels and got sucked into a black film. As a scrawny ass white girl, black films aren’t really my style. And yet there I was, watching a movie called “Why Did I Get Married?” Just me and my chocolate covered pretzels. So this movie introduced me to a rule called the 80/20 rule and I rather like it.
The premise of the 80/20 rule is that we for some reason expect another person to give us 100% of what we need in life. This, however, is impossible. No one person is absolutely perfect and can fulfill and understand our needs, wants, and desires 100% of the time. And let’s be honest, that would be a really boring relationship. What would you argue over? (And yes, I love a good argument. I could never be with someone who didn’t fight for me and fight with me. I am wrong and flawed. Call me out on it you pansy.)
So here’s the deal. We should expect our partner to meet 80% of our needs. That’s a reasonable request. And here is where it relates to my previous post. We cheat because we hope that another person can fulfill the missing 20%. And then we will have our needs met 100%. The issue is the time spent with your 20% will ruin your relationship with the 80%. Even if the 80% doesn’t know, you will know that things have fallen below 80% and you’re still not truly at 100% fulfillment. Many times, we will leave our 80% for a new fling. At first it is fun and exciting until we realize they are only 20% and we gave up something 4 times greater. Or our 80% will leave us when they find out about our 20% fling. And sometimes, we lose both. And they both find someone else who fulfills 80% of their needs.
80/20 rule. Don’t jeopardize your 80 for 20.